it's been a long one

it’s been a long one

Cheryl Strayed, the luminous and oh-so-wise author of Brave Enough and Wild, shares her insights on how to deal with our toughest struggles and come out shining.

Forgiveness doesn’t just sit there like a pretty boy in a bar. Forgiveness is the old fat guy you have to haul up the hill.

When you recognize that you will thrive not in spite of your losses and sorrows, but in spite of them, that you would not have chosen the things that happened in your life, but you are grateful for them, that you will hold the empty bowls eternally in your hands, but you also have the capacity to fill them. THE WORD FOR THAT IS HEALING.

You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.

If it is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have.

Desperation is unsustainable.

Compassion isn’t about solutions. It’s about giving all the love that you’ve got.

You have to say I am forgiven again and again until it becomes the story you believe about yourself.

Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore.